Dear FRONTLINE,
Everyday of our lives (before retiring) was devoted to "making it work."
Providing all the things in life that made survival worthwhile
. Often we were frightened and worried about failing. But the joy of being
in love, and feeling our job as parent and provider (not all at once all the
time) made the toughest of times worthwhile. My god, what a bunch of
marvelous fun it all was. Then all of a sudden there's no need to strive
anymore, and that is the problem.. There is no need to MAKING IT WORK
anymore.
All of sudden you don't
have a good reason to get out of bed in the morning. WHAT'S NEXT.? Lots of
time
on
your hands , negative thinking and lots of feeling sorry about your current
condition.
What a waste of valuable time.
I'm seventy one and lucky. I found I can do something with my time in
retirement. Do a lot of studying on putting a little bit of money into
investing in the shares of publicly owned companies. Besides watching the
market I spend hours every week in libraries examining industries, markets
and
try to learn something new every day. Being in libraries has an added plus.
Frequently I'll come across a treasure of a book that will bring hours of
pure
joy.. By the way. an absolutely painless way to do your exercise everyday is
watching the stock market while doing your aerobics, or just jogging in
place
( it works)or whatever gets you going. One more thing, get to learn how to
utilize a computer or the new inexpensive Web-TV devices(now only one
hundred
fifty dollars) Whether it takes an hour or a day, once you get the hang of
it
there won't be enough hours in the day for you.
Start MAKING IT WORK again.
Charles Ruffer
Highland Mills,NY
Dear FRONTLINE,
I was terribly disappointed in your program because of
its narrow perspective. To limit a program on such a big
part of life to one group of people from New York living in
Florida totally misses the variety and richness possible in
retirement. What about people with second careers? What about
people donating their time to social service? What about those in poverty?
What about those having major social and political responsibilities?
Your presentation was a very lazy piece of journalism which did
not begin to scratch the surface of the possibilities of retirement.
Clair Nielson
Los Alamos, NM
nielson@rt66.com
Dear FRONTLINE,
My ideas of retirement are similar to Howard's in the program. He has the
right
attitudes for successful living. I feel sorry for most of the others in the
program.
They look for ways to kill time, not enjoy living and learning. I've been
retired
for 4 years (I took early retirement at 60) and I haven't been bored yet. I
travel(I've been to France, Germany, Holland, Greece, Nepal, Hong Kong ) and
will be
going to Austria and Germany again.
I also quilt, read, enjoy music and go swimming three times a week (when I'm
home)
at the YMCA.
I've read a great book which I highly recommend for anyone --- " Be An
Outrageous
Older Woman" by Ruth Harriet Jacobs, Ph.D.
Here is another wonderful person with a great attitude about life. That's what
keeps
you young and vigorous.
I also believe in life after death and reincarnation, which takes a lot of the
fear
out of dying, because you have something to look forward to.
To the reporter of the program: look elsewhere for a place to retire. I like to
stay
where I lived most of my life, because it feels comfortable and I know my
way
around. I also like to be with people of all ages. These retirement places can
be
"deadly". I may change my mind if I get disabled or can't drive anymore, but
so for
I have too many things to do.
Enjoy !!!
Eva.
Dear FRONTLINE,
For retirees there a alternatives to simply seeking diversion while
waiting to die. Seniors represent a vast reservoir of knowledge and
skills that could be used to contribute to the lives of others. For
those whose health permits, there are countless opportunities to
contribute, either as teachers or as volunteers. Participating in life
in this way would add real meaning and a sense of being of value in the
remaining years. Your program did not address this.
Sincerely,
Myrna Jensen
Bountiful, Utah
Dear FRONTLINE,
The show about different views on retirement and how individuals handle it
was
wonderful! It truly pointed out
how the graying of America is changing what we think of as "old". The whole
program
was informative, and
nicely done. Thank you.
Phyllis Neven Schmidt
Dear FRONTLINE,
I think your program was a distorted portrayal of retirement. None of the
'Retirees'
or 'Seniors' that I know, live that kind of life.
I'm 57 and have been retired for 13 months and still can't find enough hours in
the
day to do all the things I want to do. I bought a computer to learn new
things, to
connect to all my far flung family and friends, and to load decades of
collected
information into. I figured that learning to use this wondrous machine would
keep
the 'old gray matter' free of cobwebs for a while. I also bought an acre of
land 6
years ago in preparation for this time of my life, and I'm slowly creating
the
garden of my dreams. I've been single for over a decade, and being self
sufficient
has given me confidence in the future. I spend as much time with my
grandchildren
as possible, love to cook and travel, but the biggest thrill of all, is waking
up
in the morning and knowing I have a choice in what colors to paint my day.
Sylvia Tucker
Willits, California
scrt@saber.net
Dear FRONTLINE,
This was a truly provocative program, and I will be thinking about it for a
long
time. One thing is clear to me, and that is the awfulness of
of communities with only older people living in them. It seems to me that
having a
range of ages around you is much more interesting, keeping you from
getting ingrown with an old person's mentality. I hope so, anyway. I am in
the
ideal situation, I guess. I am just turning 63, have a wife who is 44, and a
son
who is 5. This should keep me on the ball! God bless us every one.
Bill Hayes
Albion, MI
WHayes@albion.edu
Dear FRONTLINE,
Thank you for exploring this topic. It helped me to better understand my 78
yr. old
father and gave me insight into my own future. As a boomer, it is scary to
face
retirement. I guess I've always hoped that being a member of the majority
will be
comforting and open more opportunities than perhaps seniors have now.
I thought your representative boomer was somewhat arrogant. He seemed to have
the
answer for a happy, healthy old age and I realize that his suggestions are
based on
social and medical research. However, the seniors you profiled, who appeared
to be
the happiest and most involved in life each had one thing in common, a
strong,
energetic spirit that viewed each day as a gift. A package to be opened,
explored
and cherished for its own worth. I think it will be this attitude and spirit
that
will determine the quality of your retirement.
With all do respect to your golfing boomer, I identified with that scene at
the
kitchen table with his dad. Trying to get a retired parent to look at
their
lifestyle and suggest "beneficial" changes without sounding holier than thou.
Been
there and done that.
But we won't know the truth of the matter until we've been there and done
that.
Thanks for the show.
Dear FRONTLINE,
I watched Frontline "My Retirement Dreams" and found mostly a night mare. I am
79
years old and have lived in Florida over twenty years. I had hoped that
the
program would address the problems of the elderly. Instead it presented a
bunch of
old, middle class people that are waiting for god. There is so much that
the
elderly can contribute to society. I retired at 65 and took my first trip
too
Italy. In 1988 I took off some time from work and traveled to the USSR on a
Peace
Walk, one of my most pleasant and proud adventures. I went back four years
later
with a group students. I have volunteered in local schools. I am president
of the
Secular Humanists of South Florida. Helped organize Broward Citizens for
Peace
and Justice and still take part in demonstrations. Have worked with
Florida
Coalition for Peace and Justice. Volunteered to help prepare meals for Peace
Camps
for young people. I teach Italian (at least I try) at a senior citizen group
in
Sunrise. We also have a discussion group, and a music day. I try to give as
much of myself as I can.
What good are all our years of life if we can't share it with others. I
continue
to study and gain more knowledge. Always new Questions. Sure we deserve
some
fun but we must also give and find pleasures in contributing our knowledge
and
experiences. Get out and live!
Frank Schiavone
Sunrise, FL
humanist@web2000.net
Dear FRONTLINE,
Enjoyed the show as I do with most Frontline productions. Age is a state of
mind.
Young people can act old, and old people can act young. It is important to
have a
sense of purpose, and to be able to show a sense of accomplishment at the
conclusion of each day.
Harvey Kaplan
Boca Raton, FL
HKGATOR@aol.com
Dear FRONTLINE,
Shallow, shallow, shallow !!!
I am 63 & just retired to Cape Cod -------- where there is an active
retirement community ------- not in high rises, luxury boxes, complete
w/people self absorbed & doing "fun" things all day & night ------- I
feel
sorry for Florida & that whole retirement life......
Let me live among a community of all ages, where I can give of myself, to
volunteer at nature preserves, parks, libraries, theater groups, schools,
senior computer learning --- to help seniors get MORE active in THE
community
of life --and have a purpose to live ------ not like in Florida where they
are
all JUST STAYING ALIVE............ for what?
Donald C. Olson
Eastham, MA
Dear FRONTLINE,
The program was very enlightening and we are interested in finding out how
others
like us are coping.
An immediate concern is monthly expense's. I will be 65 soon and would like to
do
other things with my life instead of HAVING to work.
Where can we get info on living cost (rent-food-utilities) for the Winter
haven
area? We would consider a retirement complex if it was affordable and not
restrictive.
Thanks
Dick Wroda
Tallahasse, FL
dwroda@webtv.net
Dear FRONTLINE,
My Mom and Dad, themselves in the "geezer" age group, never quite fully
understood
my need to live a carefree life, free of the trappings of a career. My
formula was
simple: retire now and work later. After all, in my 20's I never had to
worry
about finding things to do or searching for fulfillment. Everything was
exciting,
new and wondrous.
I am happy to report that so far everything is right on track. At 33 years
old, I
have just now finished my bachelors degree and am starting on a
professional
career. Graduate Schools will likely follow in a few years. I have spent
the
better part of a decade just enjoying life, working as little as possible. So
I
may have to work until I am 80, what of it? At least I'll have something to
do.
Tonight's Frontline episode has convinced me my strategy is right-on. In fact,
I
think I may take a few more years off!!
Sincerely,
Robert Constant
Venice, Ca.
Dear FRONTLINE,
At age 67, I do not have the luxury of retirement. Twice divorced (25 years
single)mother of 3. I find myself still trying to make a living. Soc. Sec.
only 200,
not much with no other income other than what I can generate. I don't even
think
of myself as old. I am a sculptor & potter and my creativity is the
center of my
being. I have a good sense of humor and that helps. Life is so full of
discovery.
Just moved here in Dec. with no means of supporting myself, but fell in love
with
the area and I had to live somewhere, so I took a risk and a few thou. savings
and
here I am. right in the middle of life, sure I'm scared but what else is new.
Have been trying to meet someone to share life's adventure with but no luck.
Now
Howard Salzman, he's the kind of man I have been looking for...go ever forward
and
"hang" the past!!! What say you????
Marilyn J. Bader
St.Augustine, FL
mjbader@aol.com
Dear FRONTLINE,
I was dismayed to see the topic tonight as I expect more hard hitting,
topical
issues. I found myself horrified and intrigued as the show unfolded. I am 41,
very
involved in my career and life, and aware of retirement in the foggy,
distant
future. I was shocked at some of the lives presented and their tedious
existence.
Happily, there are other ends to almost any story including my own. I hope I
do as
well as some of them and that my health and finances hold out.
Thanks,
Tim Stanton
Venice, CA
t.stanton@worldnet.att.net
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